Anxiety is a normal part of childhood—but for some children, it becomes overwhelming and persistent, interfering with daily life. In Malaysia and Singapore, growing academic pressure, social expectations, and post-pandemic uncertainties have led to a noticeable rise in anxiety-related concerns among children. As a parent, it can be heartbreaking to watch your child struggle with fear, worry, or panic. The good news is that with the right support, children with anxiety disorders can learn to manage their symptoms and thrive.
Understanding Anxiety Disorders in Children
It’s normal for children to feel anxious occasionally—before exams, during changes, or in unfamiliar situations. But when anxiety is excessive, occurs frequently, and impacts their ability to function, it could be an anxiety disorder.
Common types of anxiety disorders in children include:
- Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) – excessive worry about many things (school, health, future).
- Separation Anxiety Disorder – extreme fear of being away from caregivers.
- Social Anxiety Disorder – intense fear of social situations and being judged.
- Specific Phobias – strong fear of specific things (e.g., animals, heights, darkness).
- Panic Disorder – recurring panic attacks with physical symptoms like heart palpitations or dizziness.
Signs Your Child May Be Struggling with Anxiety
Anxiety in children doesn’t always look like adult anxiety. Some signs may include:
- Frequent complaints of headaches or stomach aches with no medical cause
- Trouble sleeping or frequent nightmares
- Avoiding school or social activities
- Irritability or mood swings
- Difficulty concentrating
- Perfectionism or fear of making mistakes
- Constant reassurance-seeking
If these behaviours are persistent and affecting daily life, it’s important to seek help early.
How Parents Can Help a Child with Anxiety Disorders
1. Create a Safe and Supportive Environment
Start by acknowledging their feelings without judgment. Don’t dismiss or minimize their fears, even if they seem irrational.
Say this:
“I see that you’re feeling really nervous. I’m here to help you through it.”
Avoid saying:
“Don’t be silly, there’s nothing to worry about.”
Let them know that it’s okay to feel anxious and that you’re a safe person to talk to.
2. Teach Healthy Coping Skills
Equip your child with tools to calm themselves when anxiety strikes.
- Deep breathing: Breathe in slowly for 4 counts, hold for 4, and breathe out for 4.
- Grounding techniques: Name 5 things they can see, 4 they can touch, 3 they can hear, etc.
- Positive self-talk: Help them replace “I can’t” with “I’ll try my best.”
Practising these regularly helps build resilience.
3. Establish Routines and Predictability
Children with anxiety often feel better when they know what to expect. Keep daily routines consistent, especially around bedtime and school time. Use visual schedules or checklists for younger children.
4. Encourage, But Don’t Force Exposure
Avoiding anxiety triggers may provide temporary relief, but it can worsen anxiety over time. Instead, gently encourage exposure in small steps.
Example:
If your child fears school, start by visiting the school after hours, then progress to short days, and gradually return to full attendance.
Celebrate small wins and avoid pushing too hard too soon.
5. Limit Screen Time and Monitor Media Exposure
Excessive screen time and exposure to distressing news or social media can amplify anxiety. Set healthy boundaries around device usage and encourage more physical activity, reading, and outdoor play.
6. Seek Professional Help When Needed
If anxiety interferes with your child’s ability to function at school or home, it’s time to consult a mental health professional. A child psychologist or counsellor can offer:
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) – helps children reframe anxious thoughts.
- Play therapy – for younger kids to express emotions safely.
- Medication – in severe cases, prescribed by a specialist, and often combined with therapy.
In Singapore, services like REACH (Response, Early Intervention and Assessment in Community Mental Health) and Mindline.sg offer support. In Malaysia, parents can seek help through hospital child psychology units or NGOs like Befrienders KL for guidance.
Support for Parents: Caring for Yourself Too
Supporting a child with anxiety can be emotionally exhausting. Make sure you:
- Stay informed about anxiety disorders
- Join a parent support group
- Practice your own self-care and mental wellness
- Maintain open communication with teachers or caregivers
Remember, you are not alone—and seeking support is a strength, not a weakness.
Helping a child with anxiety is not about “fixing” them, but about walking alongside them with patience, love, and understanding. With early intervention, the right tools, and a nurturing home environment, children with anxiety can lead happy and confident lives.
Your empathy and commitment can make all the difference.
